Just checking in.

[Teej]

Hey @CheerBear , I’ve got your back. I’ll hold all that crappy self doubt for you so you can just go and do stuff without it, I have a bag 💼 for it to go in and can keep it at the top of my wardrobe 😉. 

Can i I ask if rock comment came from well or unwell one. Im thinking well one but could be wrong too. I think most 'rocks' have stuff inside no one sees. A few years ago someone who was a rock for many (mostly complex family) experienced depression when the insides got too much. Being a pretty amazing strong human she sought help and overcome it. She knows that she needs self care now and seems to be going really well, back to superwoman status. That depression though gave her a new understanding of what unwell mh is. She shared it with me and I was so grateful. So it’s ok for things to not be great when you are the rock and there will  be times where self care may be needed (included telling people that need you)  to ensure the rock features are still a strength to those around you. 

I’m so sorry for all the sad times you are having. I can only try and sit with you through those. I’m glad you are surrounded by two legged and four legged love. 

Thanks for the response. Think it’s time for this black duck to start getting prepared for said appointment.  

I hope there are moments of joy of joy in your day....and hope fully some garden pretties nearby. 💜🤗🌸🌷🌹🌸🌺🌼🌻🍁🍂

[CheerBear]

That made me teary @Teej, in a lovely way thank you.

The rock thing came from unwell one who I think is realising the importance of being thankful for those who are around and who is realising what matters in life. It's sad that it has taken this long.

Thank you for sharing that story. I agree that rocks often have stuff going on that isn't very visible. It happened in a big way when I first had a mega crash. It was a shock to those around me who had no idea anything was going on with me until I was taken to hospital. They couldn't see it (and admittedly I kept it well hidden). I have learned from it but have to keep it in mind and be on to it I think. The reminder of the importance of self-care is helpful.

Gotta get moving soon-ish too. Thanks again ❤

[Teej]

In need of a @Faith-and-Hope kick up the backside. I’m supposed to having birthday  family tea tonight but am struggling. My mind is so messy at the moment. I’m really all over the place. It’s possibly a day I needed self care but can’t. I have no energy or brain space and life is very confusing. Yesterday I couldn’t remember if I’d done things like take a shower or eat breakfast but I found evidence that I had like a wet towel and bowl in the sink :face_with_rolling_eyes:. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Make it Mexican @Teej 

Bags of corn chips

Bowl of grated cheese

Bottled Enchilada sauce in a pan + can of corn + can of beans + tin of capsicum + chopped Coriander + chopped shallots - heat and serve

Platter (big plate) + tin of corn, grated carrot, grated cheese, chopped tomatoes, chopped lettuce, chopped shallots, olives + bottle of dressing

Tub of sour cream

Dont think about it @Teej, just do ..... or for my guys I just pull everything out and everyone starts chopping and constructing when they get there.  Your part is just to provide the stuff to do it.

Start with:

Step 1 - list the stuff

Steo 2 - buy the stuff

Step 3 - unpack the stuff

If you don’t get any further than that, it’s okay.  Each of the sharks + gf have big boy / girl pants of their own they can put on and get in there to chop and structure the stuff ..... you can just be there .....

Mojitos can go with it if anyone wants to start constructing those .... with or without alcohol.

You can do this.  

Baby steps.

Big hugs 💜

[Teej]

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope . I’m definitely keeping that one in mind. For me it isn’t that easy. If it were just me and my crew that would be great but I have my parents and have had to menu plan for them and the birthday boy. I actually have to run the menu past mum first :face_with_rolling_eyes: which I did days ago. After I wrote to you I had my get healthy phone call which was the best timing possible. It motivated me. 

I have just made the lasagna sauce with everything I had in my fridge and pantry. Now I need to get my booty to the shops and buy lasagne sheets and work out a vegetarian lasagne. Have started so that’s the main thing. I am def keeping your idea on hand for kids though. It caters for them all. 

Thank you 🙏💜🤗😘

[Faith-and-Hope]

👍 all good @Teej 

[Faith-and-Hope]

P.S.  it’s easy to add minced beef or chicken to this meal ..... either cooked into the sauce, or like I do, in a separate dish to be added in for those who want it.

Hou can use tinned tomatoes with frozen onion as a base for the sauce, with tinned capsicum and a Mexican spices mix if you want ...... it’s really a mix-n-match and make-it-your-own ......

@Teej 

[CheerBear]

Hope tea is going well @Teej and your afternoon preparing for it was OK enough ❤

[Teej]

Tea went ok last night @CheerBear , @Faith-and-Hope 

I am soooooo tired. There is lots swirling around in my brain that I hope slows down tomorrow. 

How did the day with middle go @CheerBear ? 

[CheerBear]

Glad tea went OK last night @Teej. With you with the tired and the swirling 😏. Anything in particular (everything maybe?) ?

Thanks for asking how we went today. We had a very long one and were at the hospital for nearly three hours (which felt double that). Middle became very muddled when we were talking about eating stuff, when the doctor suggested a blood test, when the cast went on etc. There's going to be a fair bit more not-fun to come I think. It's kind of overwhelming really.

I'm blegh tonight. I feel down and homesick/sick of sickness maybe 🙁