Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

[Shaz51]

Hello @Beekind , @Met1 , @ComplexityQueen , @Ali11  , @frozenButterfly 

@Determined, hope you don`t mind me tagging a couple of members xx

[Determined]

Feeling a little less on edge this afternoon after a ride on my bike. I had planned to do a ~40km loop but got to the turnaround point and kept going for a more scenic loop and ended up at just over 100km. 

[Determined]

The morning started bumpy with attitude overload from one of the boys. (The same one that has issues at school that I will have to deal with this coming week) .  So while I don't like running away from my problems I think the time out to regroup was beneficial for all of us. 

There was a spot along a river bank that would have been nice to Stop and stretch out but at that point it was at the point when I should have been home and only half way there so had to press on. 

[Ali11]

That does sounds like a great way to unwind and get some time out @Determined  Glad it's helped you all somewhat. Maybe you can take another ride within the next week and plan ahead for a stop at that river bank?

[Determined]

Feeling more settled tonight after finally getting a meeting with building contractor re roof concerns. Have been assured that my main concerns will be recitfied. Something that could have been resolved much sooner with some clear (and basic) communication of intentions. 

Just have to wait now to see if it actually happens. Not holding my breath but I am hopeful. 

[Determined]

Have concerns re darling at the moment, in an alert not alarmed sense.

Most of our crisis periods have occurred at the beginning of university semesters and I believe stem from anxiety around me being less available.

Well this morning over coffee she mentioned that she hates going out and 'nobody would notice if I disappeared anyway'.     

[Former-Member]

@Determined 🙏

[Determined]

Was thankful to have had mum and sibling drop by today to visit darling. Mum hinted  they have sensed all is not well and will be coming around for a visit on days darling is alone.   Most grateful for this. 

Roof seems to be under control now and should be complete by the end of the week. Will be glad when that ordeal is over. Kind of wishing atm that I had put up with the hail damage and small resulting water leaks as the stress has not been worth it. It will be in the long term but but a bit hard to see that far ahead just now. 

[Determined]

Will have an apprentice with me at work tomorrow.  One of the boys has been suspended from school. He thought it was going to be fun and games with mummy. Umm no... it is a punishment not a holiday.

I am probably making things harder for myself but feel I need to set an example about acceptable behaviour. The mother was going to spoil him because she thinks he is hard done by. 

And I need to meet with the principle to sort things out. Going to have to choose my words well because I am less than impressed with his performance.  The current situation could have been avoided. 

[Determined]

Another day in paradise lol

Stressometer + resting heart rate.