I am really struggling at the moment.
After various functional assessment we received confirmation last week that our youngest meets the criteria for an intellectual disability.
Official verification is not until 6+ years old so another 2 to 3 years. Darling seems to have settled after a week of 'fireworks' but I am just so sad.
We knew he was going to need some additional support but I was confident (aka head in sand hopeful) that he was not that bad and with some additional support he would be ok. Feeling so guilty, we were not going to have a third baby for this very reason but he was our little surprise. While such a blessing and I would not change him for the world, I worry more about how hard life will be for him. And feeling guilty that I already struggle with S1 (also ID) and wonder how I can manage this also. Unfortunately it is up to me to manage a lot of supports, appointments etc as Darling just can not emotionally manage it. + S2 and his emerging bpd traits. 😣😭
Have been reading an article @ darcy shared a while ago about stages of grief, seems I am cycling through most of them. Just when I think I am ok I sink again.
Grateful though that so far he still has a sunny happy character. Hope he does not loose it like his older brother has.
