Morning everyone ..... ☕️💕
Hi and welcome to the forums @StillIrise 👋
@Smc so much of what you said resonates with me. It seemed to be just a matter of gritting my teeth and hanging on before our situation took a dramatic change, unable to see in that darknesss, but as you said, the moon does eventually come out from behind the clouds, and the sun out of its eclipse. I was responding to symptoms in he-who-was-the-former-love-of-my-life without realising across 30-odd years that I was dealing with a masked facade, and "curable" or even "improvement" is not part of the vocabulary with his apparent condition.
Ypurs is very different @Determined in that there exists a diagnosis, there is an acceptance that treatment is needed (despite how exhausting, twisted, and roller-coastery that pathway is) and your darling not only needs ongoing support, but can recognise that, and so can the support team.
I am watching my soon2bX now jerking my kids around with his manipulations without being able to stand as a buffer for them, very hard with D2 a preempted pawn in the middle, but now I have to await the outcomes of legal rather than medical supports.
Self-care and outside supports are as critical for you as they are for your darling @Determined ❣️ While you are unlikely to want to book yourself a nail appointment methinks, please consider such things as a massage, book club, walking group ..... even hit-and-miss attendance will be better than nought. You will need time out, respite, before the carer needs a carer.
